by Matt Titus.

There is one thing I try to convey to all of the women I work with: most men do not approach a woman because he thinks she is moral, funny or smart. His initial intention is to sleep with her. I know this sounds harsh and it may be shocking, but it’s true. I am a man and it has never been my intention to approach woman to make a new friend. I have enough friends and none of them wear make-up or smell pretty.

I try to teach women how to think like a man while never losing sight of her femininity. In most cases, a man’s actions are (unfortunately) driven by what pleases him visually, acting out of instinct and only thinking in the moment. My basic thesis is that if a woman can be taught to understand a man’s dating behavior, she can easily control, predict and successfully maneuver through all the confusing “MANerisms” during that date. In other words, I teach women how to speak “man.”

So here’s secret #1 of the Boy’s Club: when a man walks down a crowded street he involuntary classifies all women into two categories: “would sleep with” and “wouldn’t sleep with.”

Would Sleep With: These women immediately have the upper hand with men. The trick for them is to leverage their position and find a way to sift through the losers.

Wouldn’t Sleep With: These women are basically inconsequential and ignored.

To break it down further, here is a quick list on what goes through a man’s mind when he sees a woman wearing a particular outfit:

Woman 1: Black Boots / Mini Skirt / Ultra-Tight Sweater

The Male Mind: “I have just seen the woman of my dreams. This chick is HOT. She must WANT guys to approach her. I can’t imagine being that girl’s boyfriend though—it would definitely be a challenge fighting off other men’s looks. I love the way she dresses but what is she trying to prove? That’s the type of a girl you would never bring home to Mom and Dad.”

HIS CONCLUSION: Too dangerous to have anything meaningful. She exudes sexy sneakiness.

Woman 2: Torn Jeans / Flip-flops / T-shirt or Over-sized sweatshirt

The Male Mind: “Pretty girl but a little sloppy. She certainly isn’t too concerned with the way she looks, but she is easy to approach and probably fun to party with.”

HIS CONCLUSION: Headed right down Friendship Lane.

Woman 3: Business Suit / Heels / Conservative Up-Do / Perfect Nails and Make –Up

The Male Mind: “Now this is a successful woman and I know what that means: she is probably more intelligent than I am, high maintenance and looking for a man with deep pockets. She may be able to out think me, out spend me and out maneuver me!”

HIS CONCLUSION: Maybe I could hire her to do my taxes?

Woman 4: T-shirt / Running Pants / Sneakers / Ponytail

The Male Mind: “What a cutie! This girl isn’t even trying and she is so hot. She seems to be down to earth and also into her body, without being vain. She is so natural very girl next door. Wow, did she just smile at me? I can’t let this one go. I am going to introduce myself.”

HIS CONCLUSION: I am going for it.

So does this mean that you should forget about being successful or sexy and tailor your every look to what guys want to see? Of course not. But it is useful to know what the average Joe sees when he first meets you, because it may be different than the vibe you think you’re giving off.

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