by Katy Franklin.
Every girl has her own little hang-ups about a guy that drive her crazy. Whether you’re out on a first date with someone, have been dating him casually for quite some time, or have been in a long-term relationship with a man, these little annoyances can become “Dealbreakers” or “DB’s,” as my friends and I so lovingly refer to them. Some are not so bad, while others can be totally devastating to a first date, or a committed relationship. So I thought long and hard and came up with a list of things I would consider “Dealbreakers” for myself. I also polled some girlfriends to get some second opinions and fresh ideas. The following are 50 serious Dealbreakers…guys, you may want to take notes…
He shows up to your first date wearing stonewashed, tapered jeans, fashionable circa 1980
He has braces
He lives with his mom
He doesn’t have a job
He talks about his ex-girlfriend all the time
He orders off the menu for you without asking
He never shuts up about cars/his car
He doesn’t have a car-Yikes!
He hits on other women while on your date
He hits on other men while on your date-this is a bad sign
-Thankfully, this one guy I dated did not hit on other men while we were out, but he definitely hit on other women. I shouldn’t have been so surprised though…I met him in line to get in to a club and he was with a date then, and still hit on me! I decided to go out with him the next weekend though, mainly because he was hot. Sure enough, we went to another club together and he managed to get a couple of other girls numbers that night. Definitely a “DB” for me. Most likely one for the girl he was with when he hit on me, as well. Whoops! ?
On your first date, he takes you to one of those restaurants where there are tv’s everywhere, and he’s more interested in whatever is on, than you.
He takes phone calls during dinner out with you
You go back to his place of residence and it looks like a frat house
You go back to his place of residence and it IS a frat house
You take your date to an Asian restaurant and he doesn’t know how to use chopsticks
He’s mean to people in the service industry, such as valet attendants, servers, busboys, etc…
-My sister dated a guy for awhile, and one time they got into a cab in New York City. The cab driver must have done something to make her date mad, but he totally flew off the handle and started cussing at the driver, and seriously overreacting. He had total road rage in the backseat of that cab. My sister said she saw who he really was that night, and didn’t like it one bit; she was so turned off. She finished the date in a hurry, and never called him again.
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He wears a wife-beater on your first date…make that any date |
-I had a friend whose boyfriend had his mother call her so he could break up with her-no joke. This is a BIG “DB”
He doesn’t tell you that you look nice when you do…or doesn’t bother to lie when you don’t
He only eats at five star restaurants, or he only eats at Taco Bell
He doesn’t let you sleep on the inside of the bed by the wall when you sleep over
He doesn’t offer to carry heavy things for you
He makes untoward comments about anyone’s race, religion or sexual orientation
He refuses to watch Grey’s Anatomy, Gossip Girl or Desperate Housewives with you…once
He’s a bad kisser
He refuses to stop and ask for directions when lost
He tries to fix things around your house when he should have just called someone in the first place
He lies about…anything
He lives in a trailer
He talks about you meeting his parents and moving in with him…on the second date
He lies about his age, and ends up being older than your dad or younger than your little brother
He spends more time looking in the mirror than you do
He’s about to turn 30 but hasn’t had a real, live girlfriend since High School
He has Herpes medication in his bathroom cabinet
He speaks a different language than you do
And finally,
He’s illiterate, and therefore cannot read this article to know what the hell not to do.
About the author: Katy is an aspiring writer who just moved to LA from New York City. She used to work in the entertainment industry, but is now trying to figure out her life and what her next step may be! She loves movies, reading, writing and taco bell, and is enjoying getting to know LA.
